What’s the best way to let them know what’s going on, provide the most kid-friendly explanation, and encourage them to become as excited as you are about surrogacy?
The best place to begin is with a short list of ideas that little ones can process in their own way.
There’s no magic formula for conveying the concept to your children. Every child and every family is unique. But many former surrogates have found a few approaches rather helpful. Here are some techniques that might work for you as you begin to involve your own children in the surrogacy process.
So what DO you say? If you need a little help explaining the whole concept of surrogacy to your kids, there are some excellent books available. Here are ten that made our list because they offer various viewpoints and interesting, engaging ways to speak with youngsters about the idea of surrogacy.
Consider reading these books aloud to children who are too young to read. But even for little readers, it’s best for you to read the books with them, stopping to share discussion points, explore questions, look at illustrations, and just enjoy the stories. All of these books are lighthearted and positive, and they’re all written in a way that keeps children engaged.
Maybe the single most important thing to remember during your own surrogacy journey is to continue communicating with your child about what’s happening. Your body is changing. Your journey is progressing. Remember to let your children ask as many questions as they wish. Even if you do not have an answer, you can say: “Oh that is a really interesting question! I don’t have an answer just yet, but as soon as I do I will let you know.”
If you ever find yourself at a loss about how to respond to a child’s question, or just don’t know how to begin the conversation, speak with your surrogacy provider for ideas and assistance.
Remember, many people have dealt with kids of all ages, and while you can’t anticipate every question a child might bring up, rest easy in knowing that you can always speak with a counselor or other kind of specialist when you need help.
